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Friday, June 2

sound advice part 2

Took my boss car back to unit from shangri la hotel. Yes, i've spent a night there and will be doing so for the next 2 days. How's life in a 5 star hotel? this shall be another story.

The post is solely abt our conversation, 1 way conversation, we had in the car.
I've mentioned to several people before that my boss kenneth always surprises others with ideas least expected. So much so to the extent that even i got stunted, wasn't able to reply or should i say don't know how to reply, all i could do was to look at him blankly and smile or laugh.
In this awkward conversation, i was smiling all the way.. seriously, i don't know what to say!

Nonetheless, his words always make sense, sharing from his own experience and regrets... I'm typing out the ideas he said as much as possible...

'You shld always think of what u want in the future and not what u want now. 10 yrs down the road, u wouldn't want what u want now, u will want things like big house big car and money. You can ask all those old people. That is why you shld start planning for what you want in the future or else u will regret...
Just think abt being able to sit in a condo beside a swimming pool with a big car infront... that will be the things u want in the future...'

He started giving me tonnes of example which i can't make myself to listen as i was in deep thoughts.

i was thinking, 'hey! i'm already living in a big house, being driven in mercedes. I've moved from a condo which fits ur description 5 yrs ago into the bigger house i'm living in now. And seriously, after experiencing that, i would rather live in a hdb flat'

This idea is largely linked back to the 'deception of beauty' i've always mentioned. And that was sometimes the reason why i can really hate my father for being such a hypocrite. Would rather to be in debt of the bank to just have a big house and car to show the world.
But then again, it is because of what he had done that i can truely understand the reality.
Perhaps if he doesn't do so, i may become the one who will be in debt just to get myself the big house...

YL once told me that all businessman are like so, faces to them are very impt.
But then, i would rather spent the thousand of dollars installment for the big house and car on useful, meaningful and enjoyable things.

Having such a goal of owning big flat i would say create more problems, my boss in living in regret. His sole happiness is his mechincal happiness of flying his toy helicopter in camp.

Perhaps its true that because i treasure what i'm enjoying now that i've not thought about what i'll be needing and enjoying in the future. True enough, i'll need money for expenses, education, shopping, to return the debt for the upper generation, and we all know its not a small sum. How am i going to get the money? That is something that i've always tried not to think abt in the past. Though i'm accepting this fact now, i've yet to think of a solution (other than hoping for a scholarship sponser to call me or sent me an email to invite me down to take their money.) Only a few who were involved in my scholarship adventure got a glimpse of my situation which i tried not to reveal in the past. Too ashamed to do so.

IT was much later that i feel that only those who doesn't accept their problem are unable to face it and those who are unable to face their problem are ashamed to show it.

Haha.. before i realised it, i'm deviating from my intial intention to talk abt sound advice.
All in all, summarizing (censoring) what he was saying it would be 'u must always know what u will want in the future and be prepared for them now. Enjoying what u are having now is not enough'

Maybe deep down in my heart i know abt this all along, that is why i always tell everybody that 'i got no time to lose'..


I got no time to lose...

(currently i'm in tp library typing, will be going down to hotel later..)

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